Therapy for trauma, interpersonal difficulties, emotional instability, detachment, and chronic shame. Online and In-Person in San Diego.
For people who have done the work and want relief, and are looking for an informed and experienced partner in therapy.
Insight is only one part of healing, especially when only one part of you has insight, while others continue to feel uneasy.
You’ve Done the Work. So Why Does It Still Feel This Hard?
You understand your trauma. You’ve read the books. You know the language. And yet your body still reacts before your mind can catch up.
Through a multiplicity of mind and experience approach, therapy can move beyond what you know, to what you feel, and bring the two together and get real relief and a sense of direction.
Therapy for trauma, interpersonal difficulties, emotional instability, detachment, and chronic shame involves three things:
Building insight
Noticing self-states
Learning how to attend to signals from the body
That’s where our work begins. It’s a delicate process to build all three, and you need a trusting, safe, and down-to-earth relationship with an experienced therapist.
Trauma Therapy, Delivered with Gentleness and Clarity
I work with adults online in California, New York, Massachusetts, Michigan, and Florida,
and in-person in San Diego.
My approach is founded on the idea that our mind is a multiplicity, and once we can have a caring dialogue with ourselves, we can find relief, peace, and connection with self and world. I use IFS, ego state, schema therapy, EMDR, and mentalization-based therapy (MBT) to build a compassionate therapy for you based on your particular experience and needs.
In-Person Therapy in San Diego
In-person trauma therapy supports trauma healing through a calm, relational space where your nervous system can slow down, settle, and feel supported. Currently available in San Diego, CA.
Online Therapy
Trauma therapy online makes trauma healing accessible wherever you are, offering consistent, regulated support to help your body and mind feel steadier over time.
A Therapist Who Understands Trauma — and Knows How to “Go Slow to Go Fast”
Hi, I’m Richard. I’m a licensed psychotherapist with over 20 years of experience working with adult clients coping with complex trauma and personality difficulties.
“I’ve tried a lot of other types of therapy that haven’t helped…”
I hear that a lot when people contact me for therapy. There are a lot of theories out there about what makes therapy successful, but the one common factor backed up by peer-reviewed studies is the therapy relationship. If you have a good relationship with your therapist, the therapy is more likely to work. I start there.
I build trust, safety, a sense of being real, and steady. I focus on calm, patient, curious, deep listening. I also stay clear about your goals, keep us on track with them without pushing. In trauma therapy, you have to “go slow to go fast.”
You Don’t Have to Heal by Pushing Yourself
Folks with CPTSD or personality difficulty can get so used to feeling bad about themselves and hopeless that it’s hard to imagine cooperating with your coping skills rather than feeling dominated by them and always stuck in survival mode or checked out— or both.
Healing is about knowing why you do what you do, and having the skills to care for yourself and stop the internal conflict so that you can respond to life with steadiness instead of always bracing for impact.